Erectile dysfunction (ED) doesn’t just affect men. it extends to their partners as well. After all, the sexual difficulties are hers too.
Still, men often hesitate to talk about their ED. They feel embarrassed and guilty and consider themselves less “masculine”. There is much to do. But significant others can help by providing much-needed emotional and physical support.
How can you address such a sensitive topic and what role should a partner play specifically? Here are seven suggestions.
Discuss the problem
Good communication is the basis of a lasting relationship. Address any concerns you have about their difficulty having or maintaining an erection by discussing your feelings and letting your partner know that you care. As challenging as it is to talk about sexual issues, the difficulty skyrockets when the problem is buried under years of lies, hurt, and resentment.
Find the right time to talk
There are two types of sexual conversation: those you have in the bedroom and those you have elsewhere. It’s often best to talk about ED at a time and place where both people feel less vulnerable – that is, not in bed if you are not undressing.
Assure your partner that he is not alone
Remind him (and yourself) that ED has millions of men and that it is a treatable disease. Also, understand that ED doesn’t mean he’s no longer interested in sex – or in you.
Learn more about the condition and treatment options
Information really empowers. The best treatment for ED is one that you both think will best suit your lovemaking.
Offer to go to the doctor’s appointment with your partner
In general, couples who work together have the best chance of successful treatment. However, if your partner prefers to see their doctor alone, respect their privacy. There are other ways you can assist with his treatment.
Help your partner help themselves
Remember, harmful health habits like smoking and heavy drinking can cause ED. In a supportive and non-judgmental way, encourage your partner to break these habits and develop healthier habits that could improve your sex life. What is good for his general health is good for your sexual relationship.
Express your love in many ways
Expand your repertoire of intimate forms of expression. Lovemaking can be satisfying even without an erection. Create an atmosphere of caring and tenderness and explore different ways to be intimate in the bedroom like foreplay and exploring each other’s bodies.