Too often we talk past each other nowadays.
If the other person speaks often, we think about what to say next or what we missed the last time we had the chance to talk.
This is a classic case of talking past one another.
What can we do against it?
It’s easy. To be present.
It’s so easy to focus on the conversation and be present in the moment.
Is it hard to do
Absolutely. It can be very difficult to do and even more difficult to perform.
What can you do about it?
Again, it’s easy.
- Take a moment
- First take a breath
- Take a punch
And focus on where you are right now.
- Focus on what you want to achieve now
- Focus on what you want out of the conversation
- Focus on what to expect from the conversation
Then make it happen.
How do you know what the other person wants from the conversation?
That’s easy. Ask her!
Pro tip: never go to a meeting with no agenda.
Before meeting anyone, establish the basic rules of what you want to achieve and what to expect.
This doesn’t always work. Because sometimes you’re in the office, in the elevator, at a trade fair or just out in the wilderness. And you don’t always have the moment to set the context.
When you receive this impromptu request, you can take a moment to ask what the other party expects from the conversation. Set SMART goals
Take a moment and ask.
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If you have the time … take your time and:
- Set the tone
- You set the pace
- Set the agenda
The ends will justify the means.
Take the time to prepare. Take the time to really listen. And above all, take the time to be present.
If you master this one skill, you will stand out in your career. They are known for holding effective meetings and having meaningful conversations.